This doesn’t mean that you’re trying to stop your grief. You are just channeling that restless energy into making positive improvements in your life, and journaling can be helpful to that important step in your growth. This wheel can help you put into words how you are feeling and whether a certain behavior brought those feelings to light. For instance, if you were out enjoying a few cocktails with friends and suddenly felt overwhelming sadness because seeing all the happy couples enjoying each other made you cry and you could not explain it to your friends, this wheel can help. If you find SAD in the center, you most likely are experiencing one or more of the middle feelings which brought you to one or more of the outer reasons. Journaling this will help you remember how this activity made you feel and in the future could serve as a reminder to you. It also helps to go back and read those entries to see your healing progress.
Putting action-oriented grieving to work also may include harnessing that restless energy that we have from grief into making positive impacts for others and more positive improvements toward healing. Directing your energy by providing support to others who are grieving, or by creating a memorial for your loved one or even by advocating for a cause you believe in will inspire others and are all examples of action-oriented grieving.